We need to stop waiting for the people “above “us to make change. We have been taught as the people that do the “menial” work that we do not have any agency for change, but that is so far from the truth.
We say we need a coach, a trainer, a mentor, a teacher, a boss, an assistant to make the change in our life that we want. We search for the affirmation of somebody else being present with us in our project or dream. At the root of this I believe is the desire to not be defined by what we do or what we have done. If somebody else is there, there is less chance of something going wrong, but more than that I believe internally we would be able to dismiss some of the responsibility onto another person if something were to go wrong.
We have become so accustomed to top down ways of management, leadership, coaching and so many more things. This is the trickle down growth method. The skills or experience of the older, higher up, more credentialed people would be able to assert their wisdom and it would build and grow people. This trickle down practice has been disproven time and time again whether it is economics or management styles, it does not work because it takes away autonomy. This is the freedom for you to be you as an individual and choose the path you want to take from your unique experiences and creative expression.
The easiest way to find evidence of this is in the work place just because of the multiplication of efficiency, productivity, and innovation. This is the same equation that we confront when we wait for change. In this is the belief that our autonomy is not enough. We think we need things like drive, focus, or vision to start moving the needle. We see change as a big picture, which it is, but it is a big picture vision with a small picture perspective. Essentially what I am getting too is that the only way change is going to happen is by taking one step and another step.
Practical small steps
Easy does it, I admit I have never been one to just jump in the pool. I am all about taking the steps, getting two steps in and then saying it is too cold and then saying screw it I am jumping. We often get frustrated when we do not make the progress like we see other people making. We would not get frustrated if we saw the struggles that other people had. I write and I create this website a little bit at a time. I have not gotten to where I am without showing up consistently.
Consistently showing up is the key. The one thing to get out of this article is SHOW UP. 10 minutes of writing, work on the website twice a week, water the tree daily; whatever it is we need to not only show up for ourselves but for others. I do not do this work to get myself somewhere, but I do this work to get other people places. We have been misguided by those above in positions of power. It is easy for them to say they are making change because they have all kinds of people below them doing work. We need to break through the perception that change happens from the top. Approval from a boss is not needed to make a change; you are competent, wise, creative, and intelligent. You are able to make a decision of a change that needs to take place. I am granting you this as somebody that has spent the majority of his life being timid. I did not feel I had a place, so I know what it feels like to be on the outside in the you do not matter land, but I am here to tell you that you are important, you are beautiful, and you are remarkable.
Please come make your mark!
Whatever it is you want to change let somebody in on it, ask them for feedback and then to hold you accountable. We need people that have our backs; learning to walk is not easy.
If you want your boss to treat you differently then ask somebody the best way to bring it up
If you want to start an organization ask somebody to sit with you and create a plan
If you want to start a diet then cut out one thing that you do not want to eat
If you want to start a big weight loss then go for a 15 minute walk
If you want to have a focused meditation then try it for 2 minutes
If you want to organize a rally around a cause then text a few friends and ask them to join
If you want to learn sign language start with the ABC’s
Small steps, then build momentum, build excitement. Passion does not happen right away and it does not come from people at the top giving it to us. We have to take a step and discover it
I believe you can make change, I believe you can create, I believe you are worth it
Be remarkable, leave your mark!
Start here and in the comments say what it is that you want to change