Lessons on this year from me to you

At the beginning of the year I got a vision of this year and it was summarized by the word waiting. Waiting is so hard for people. There is something inside of us that is unsettled by a mystery. I think it is this unsettled feeling that actually drives us further into the mystery. There is a tension of wanting to know and not yet being able to know, so we tell the hurrying mind to have patience.
Here are 10 lessons I learned this year
1 patience
2 work on yourself
3 stability is important
4 saying no
5 gotta keep the feet moving
6 smile
7 waiting is a grind so grind
8 embrace the challenge
9vision is a powerful thing
10there is hope

Read on if you want to learn beyond the encouraging affirmations, if you don’t then your life will never be the same!
Not really, but if you want to learn about the ways I found these lessons applicable his past year then I think you will be grateful.

I like to say that patience is not a stationary activity, but takes much action. Patience is a perspective. Being patient is the occupation of doing an activity while waiting for the promise of what is to come. I have known what is going to come in this upcoming year and in the future. I still believe those promises will happen, but patience is needed to allow those things to happen in their time. Everything has its moment and we need to let the moment be the moment. The important lesson about patience is not about the perseverance of getting to the goal, but what you do in the meantime. The reaching of the goal does not build character it is the journey in-between.
2 work on yourself
So often this year, I caught myself saying “the work after the 9-5 is harder than the 9-5 work”. We spend our lives doing other people’s work and rarely take the time to do our own work. I have come to incorporate the belief that what is happening inside will happen outside, so if we want change, if we want greatness, if we want love then we have to know it our self first. This goes for forgiveness, grace, peace, joy, and purpose. To quote an artist I listen to on repeat this year, “we have to give it to get it and we have to get it to give” Shad. Ways to do this is by entering into the area outside your comfort zone; incorporate a coach or counselor; somebody that can mentor you and process areas that you want to improve in your life. Remember what is on the inside comes out
3 stability is important
Stability looks different for different folks. For some it is just a bed to lay at night and others it is a safe and calm home to return to. Take time to understand what stability looks like for you. This goes beyond the recharge for introvert/ extrovert. It is the place where you can come back to, that will constantly be there, it is the consistent reliance. It is the floating platform that you can climb onto when you get tired of swimming.
4 say no
When you say no you are actually saying yes, you are just saying yes to what you are prioritizing. We need to know what is important to us so we know what to say no too. The more we say no the more we make room for what we value. What is taking our time, our heart, our passion; more than it should be. Is it Facebook, is it TV, is it a particular food, is it a toxic relationship; I challenge you to say no to one thing to kick off the year, not as a resolution, but something to be mindful about.
5 gotta keep the feet moving
”putting the feet in motion is the magic potion to healing emotion” the mental and emotional have a great connection with the physical body. We have been taught that mind over matter is the way to fix things, but this is not the most effective or productive. To fix things we need to learn and grow, to do this we need to move and take action. This is a slow change into a big change, do something different, help out at an organization, start a community group, exercise; just got to put the feet in motion to heal emotion. The heart will pick up on the forward progress and start to heal and grow.
6 smile
This is something I did not do too much of before this year. When the smile came out it was contagious, but it was often hidden. I now see that guy. My mentor was encouraging a group of guys and he was telling them how he looks in the mirror and asks the person in the mirror do you see that guy? That guy is awesome and you know that one weird person that walks behind you in the mirror while you are talking to it, you say to them hey you see that guy in the mirror, that guy is awesome, that guy is “The Guy”!
This is the spiritual meeting the physical and the smile is the physical meeting the spiritual. When you smile you are connecting with others and you are connecting with the higher power that provides all good and loving things. I have never been one to force people to do something, but I would strongly suggest to force yourself to smile and watch the change. You will have to be mindful of it because the smile come and goes; the trick will be to keep it there as long as possible. Remember you are that guy and you are that girl; you have power.
Note: see how this connects with the previous lesson
7 waiting is a grind so grind
There is no preparation like preparation. Not sure if that is true, but it sounds good. Waiting does not call for us to be still, you are not in line with your mom at the grocery store. Waiting is a season; it could be long or short, but make the best of it. There is always an inevitable something after waiting; the question is you going to be ready for the next season, the next phase, the next step. You have a gift for the world, so be ready and prepared to share it, the time is going to be here soon.
8 embrace the challenge
Remember before about what happens outwardly reflects what is happening inwardly, well this truth is possibly greatest piece of wisdom I have. What we accept in our self is what we will accept in others, what we judge others in reflects how we judge our self. Challenges will always be there it is just what you do with them. The American dream is set in pursuing comfort, relaxation, and this false notion of peace and happiness; as if it is something that can be grasped and achieved. challenges will always be there, so embrace them, see them as a learning tool, talk with them and invite them for a cup of tea, sorry I just started drinking coffee so I am not comfortable saying a cup of coffee.
9 visions is a powerful thing
You do not need sight to see. In the great words of the latest star wars movie, “I am the force and the force is with me”. I am not a star wars fanatic, but the words of the blind guy in the movie are too important to not share. An old Hebrew man name Paul said he did not walk by sight; to me this meant he walked using feeling, and memories, and help, and the belief that one foot in front of another will get him to his destination. We can have the biggest dreams and the plan of all plans, but unless we are using our feelings, connecting with our resources, and consistently putting one foot in front of another then vision is purposeless, but there is power in having vision. If you can see even if you do not have sight, then walking in your purpose and what is meant for you will be clear, not easy, but clear. That clarity will allow you to drive forward on that vision more and more each day.
10 there is hope
advocating, standing up for the vulnerable and oppressed, having integrity, seeking a heart of compassion, and being love is much harder than reaching any goal or achievement. The reason there is hope is because from each of these growing experiences there is a character that will be shaped and look like no other. The reason I have hope is because I can see the past and see the character that has been developed and there is no shame in that character. There is hope because we can look forward and know that things will not stay the same. There is hope, as glimmering as it may be, that change will come and tomorrow will be better, tomorrow will be the day you will make it if you induce it with your hope.

Looking back over this year I do not see anything great, but dang this year was great. These lessons are divine, they are powerful, they are important. I am not tooting my horn I have just come to embrace who I am and when that happens there is a power that allows you to embrace what you do with such amazement. There has been nothing that has been physically produced, but the roots that were watered from the trials of this past year are so rich and strong. A master story teller once told me you have a choice to get bitter or get better and I choose better. It is a choice each and every day, some are harder than others, but that is ok.
To be a speaker of any sorts, which I think I am because I am writing this, I have learned that much silence is needed to speak. It is essential to listen to all the things going on around and in, to hear the words that actually need to be said. I take much humility in the way you let me speak into your life even if this is the first time.
I want you to be able to make the change that I have been able to see, so along with 10 lessons I am going to give you 10 things to practically do to make this next year a great one.
1 make time for silence
Start where I left off, silence is essential. It is the quieting of all the voices and inputs going on around you so you can listen clearly.
2 find a mentor
Find somebody older or that has experiences that you admire and learn from them. Find opportunities where they can speak into your life by being of service to them or just being around them. This is more than coffee dates!
3 figure out your priorities and values
This is essential to spend your time on this earth in the most meaningful way possible. Who does not want to do this?
4 feel good
Figure out what makes you excited and makes you feel good. Do more of this by any means necessary.
5 invest in yourself
Look for an area you want to grow in, a way that life would be better, and invest in that area. An online course, a retreat, a tool or gadget that would allow you to pursue a passion.
6 dive into discomfort
This was hard to put on the list, but it is important. If you are learning to be a runner then push yourself extra hard the last 10 percent of each run. You always have more than you think you have.
7 make connections
It is important to meet new people, but it is also important to know and step into area’s that you are interested in expanding into.
8 get counseling
Figuring out why we do the things we do is really important
9 get creative
Find something that stirs your mind and allows you to think between the different intersections of life
10 seek advice
More important than knowing why we do the things we do is the how to do the things we want to do. This we need to ask for advice and help. It is something we all need a bit more of.

At the end of this I do not want you to feel like you are out of ideas or change is too far away. It does not have to be big and glorious, it just has to be one step at a time, and one beat at a time; that is how the heart grows.
If you are feeling lost or want someone to coach you through something let me know. It may be something I can help you with if not I probably have someone in my tribe ready to help. I am always willing to answer questions and give tips

This was way longer than I intended, but if you read to this point I hope it was useful for you. At this end of this year I am grateful that I have the ability to speak into your life, share in common human experiences, and inspire you to make great and magnificent changes in your life.
This next year I have many goals and exciting things I am looking forward to accomplishing. They will be exciting so I hope you stay with me in the journey. There is something in the works about a podcast, and maybe a book.
As always I am here to coach you to clarity for your vision; if you are not clear you will confuse and if you confuse then you lose
Keep putting one foot in front of another, you got this friend.
Grace and peace to you